Nurturing a large family with exclusive love for all

Whatever one does, the other wishes to do the same and do it better. If someone praises one, the other immediately starts to sulk. Competing with each other in everything and always demanding more attention plus constant bickering, might sound familiar to your ears if you are raising a large family. All your children might be very intelligent, bright and loving with just one problem – jealousy.

Parenting a large family, could make you feel as if you’re having to cut yourself in several pieces, to address the specific emotional and academic needs of each, dividing your time, being fair to everyone involved along with doing the chores.

I offer you a simple recipe to raise a large family and exclusive love for all without the bitterness of jealousy.

Respect Individuality of Each:

The main ingredient here is the fact that no two children are same. Even in the case of twins, they might look identical but their needs and temperament could be totally contrasting. Some children can be really easy to talk to and reason with. While others could be stubborn and naughty, you might have to use a firmer hand with such kids. Your duty here is to treat them as different individuals not ignoring the needs of any

Splitting Your Time:

The second important ingredient here is dividing your time amongst all your children, making them realize that they are equally vital for you. If you inadvertently give more attention to one child, the other child is bound to feel the pinch. However, if you are taking time out for each child it wouldn't really matter if you spend a little extra time with a particular child.

Avoid Comparisons:

Most parents often commit the mistake of comparing their children. Giving examples of the others better performance is sure to develop stronger feelings of jealousy. Should you not only avoid comparisons among your kids, but also with other kids.

See to what the pocket of each one holds:

When your kids are having a tiff, don't go by what you hear. Listen to the side of each one individually. This shows them that you value both their opinions. You will have to deal with them as you see fit, even if it means that one or more of your children feel that they have been unjustly dealt with.

Be fair and just:

Parents tend to cosset the younger child, and expect the older child to give in. Often forgetting that the older child is older to the younger one, but is still a child. By engaging in such activities, you not only mutilating the self worth of your older child but also spoiling the younger one too.

Competition is good if its healthy:

Competition encourages the child to give his/her best, working as a benefit for them. But if competition is taken to the extreme, it can be destructive in later stages of life.

Your man too need some moments:

Out of the large family you are raising, make sure to take out some time for your spouse too. Don't let him feel that you are too engrossed with the kids and household chores. He might understand that you are loaded with responsibilities but it is an inevitable fact that he too craves for your time and attention.