Take their hands: Your Child and Chores
Having children around, increases the amount of household chores falling under your umbrella. Some help from your spouse and the kids could decrease your workload. Instead of asking your spouse to help around the house, which gives the impression that the household chores are only your job and responsibility, ask your spouse to do his share. You could consider handing out household chores to your folks for a stress-free environment.
- Sorting out things could be a great activity. Ask your kids to play a game of matching socks and sorting laundry. You could keep on upgrading their job - from sorting to folding and finally putting them where they belong.
- When asking for help, from your spouse or kids, remember to ask politely. Notify them that you are willing to do your share of your work, but everyone in the family needs to help. Explain to them that you would be tranquil and stress free if everyone would just select a simple task and help. Try not to pester them.
- Offer rewards to your little one for completing the chores. A small snack, a warm hug, a new toy or a trip to the zoo could be given to demonstrate your appreciation.
- Some household chores could be waved off, for instance if mowing the lawn takes a lot of time, you could sprinkle wildflower seeds or if you do not like ironing, you could toss the iron give the clothes to the iron-man. This way your domestic chores may become less draining emotionally and physically.
- Be flexible and allow your folks to accomplish a task in their own way. If having the towels folded a certain way is super important to you, then you fold the towels.
- You need to show everyone that a clean house takes teamwork and teamwork gets the job done in half the time. If your children cannot remember their list of chores, give them gentle reminders.
- Decide on each person's chores keeping in mind their age and ability. Asking your little one to lift a toy lid that is too heavy or picking clothes from a pole that is high above his head would make it hard for the child to help.
- Lastly it is important to be considerate of one another's body clocks. Some people are morning birds while some are night owls. Forcing one another to do a project or chore when they really aren't ready to do it, further enhances the tension. Timing is important. So is sharing expectations.
Fabricate a link between your child and chores. This would be helpful in teaching your child that all family members must work together to make the household run, and that each person must do his or her share of the work load. Also his/her internal belief system would shift to parallel the reality of the real world- a place in which hard work can result in real-life success, a positive self-concept, service to others, and a healthy environment.